Final week, I broke down a psychological well being time period I’ve discovered extra about lately – automated damaging ideas. All of us course of issues in numerous methods, and damaging ideas are a byproduct of that processing. Whereas I haven’t been in a position to rid myself of damaging ideas, I’ve been in a position to acknowledge them and attempt to cope with them in a extra direct approach than I used to. Listed below are some methods I strive coping with automated damaging ideas, in addition to some reminders about managing them.
Reminder: you aren’t alone
It’s straightforward to fall into pondering that we’re going by way of this alone, however the reality is that so many individuals cope with ANTs, and all of us expertise damaging ideas. There’s power in numbers, and naming the truth that you’re not alone is commonly useful in nerve-racking occasions.
Everybody offers with damaging ideas
That is just like the primary level, however what I need to clarify about that is how blunt that is. Saying that everybody has damaging ideas isn’t saying one thing dangerous about one other particular person; slightly, it’s a reminder that we’re human.
Be careful for “ought to” pondering
There are various methods to consult with the sort of pondering however mainly, “ought to” pondering is once we say that we ought to have carried out one thing as a substitute of what ended up taking place. Whereas it’d sound useful at first, it may possibly create a sample of damaging pondering and irrational pondering. It could possibly additionally find yourself creating worry and doubt inside an individual – if you consider what you ought to or might have carried out, you suppose much less about what you’re really doing.
Acknowledge your personal patterns
Everybody’s ideas are distinctive to them, and ANTs work the identical approach. Over time, just a few reoccurring ideas grow to be a behavior, which grow to be a sample. This results in having the identical ANTs time and again, to the purpose the place you’re doing it…robotically (see what I did there?). Recognizing your personal sample of damaging ideas is a wholesome first step towards progress.
Contemplate alternate options to your unique thought
That is one thing I’m nonetheless studying about, however it’s been very useful in coping with ANTs. When we’ve a damaging thought, it feels very lower and dry. I didn’t do X as a result of I’m Y. However the actuality of the scenario is commonly very completely different, and discovering a extra rational, grounding thought can typically assist us cope with thought patterns we’ve developed whereas offering safety towards constructing new patterns.